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Am I Spending More Time Arguing Than Expressing My Love To My Other Half? by: RyuC How often do you let your other half know that she is loved? Are you spending precious time quarreling with her? How long does it take for you to give her a hug and tell her "I love you" ? How long do your fights usually last? In a world that is crowded with millions of people, for two total strangers to meet and develop special feelings for each other, thereby settling down and building a home together is a pure miracle. Miracles don't happen to just anybody anytime! Yes, indeed, we were definitely head over heels in love with our chosen one during the dating stage. The "getting to know each other" and "getting her to like you" stages were definitely memories filled with sunshine and laughter, beautiful gifts specially picked and delivered, as well as romantic meals together... A successful marriage has a depth that is as deep as the ocean. To make your marriage into one that is filled with love and laughter requires the refining of specific skills over time. Do not even try to search for a perfect marriage. It does not exist. No marriage is complete without the occasional disagreements and tears! Bear in mind that both your partner and yourself were individuals with individual characters, habits and thinkings to start with. It is my utmost honor to share the following pointers from over fifteen years of experience. 1. Patience and a Listening Ear Give your loved one your total attention whenever she is speaking. Be patient even when she seems to be nagging! How would you feel if your partner keeps looking elsewhere, or moving about doing something else while you are trying to tell her something that you feel is important to you? 2. Respect Everyone likes to be respected, especially by someone whom occupies an important part of one's heart. Do not be negative about things she likes just because you do not have a liking for it. Instead, try to see things from her perspective, and understand more about why she feels the way she does. 3. Two-way Communication It takes two hands to clap. Never insist on having your way without first listening to your other half's opinions. How much you understand your partner depends on the quality of communication between both of you. If every time you speak your loved one is hurt, your communication will only worsen your relationship. There will be times whereby we are really agitated, having no means of calming down. Take a breather, have some time away from each other. Sometimes, things are really not as bad as it seems after cooling down & looking at the issue at question from a different angle. 4. Sharing of Household Chores This is especially crucial if both of you are having a job. All of us are human, and there is a limit on both our physical and mental tolerance. Do not blame each other for household chores not done. If need be, plan out a household activities schedule, or engage third party help. But do remember to be flexible if the need arises! You would be surprised that doing household chores together is also a good way of improving your relationships! It would definitely be foolish to fall out with each other over mundane household chores! 5. Show that You Care If you love your other half, why be shy about expressing your feelings to her? Don't underestimate the importance of a simple hug every day, coupled with the 3 beautiful words "I love you!" A specially handpicked gift once in a while would be a nice gesture too. The simple act of preparing a cup of drink for her, or offering to massage her after work would be endearing as well. Sometimes, just a simple question of concern, "how's your day?" would show her that she matters to you. Start remembering the little things you would do for her during your dating period, such as carrying her bag for her, opening the car doors for her to alight, etc. Marriage is the beginning of a journey of discovery together. Be appreciative of your other half. It's never too late to start showing her how much she means to you. There is no shame in admitting you are wrong infront of your loved one. Only when you are courageous enough to forgive her faults and look deep for positive points concerning her, would your marriage flourish. Do not forget the things about her that prompt your proposal to her in the very first place! About The Author RyuC is a freelance writer. Refer to more related materials at http://www.MyMarriageAdvice.com |
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